Grief & Trauma Resources

Mary Ng Tedjasukmana, LCSW, PLLC

Resources for Grief & Trauma

Resources for PTSD:



Trauma-Focused CBT for Children and Adolescents: Treatment Applications by Judith A. Cohen,
Anthony P. Mannarino, and Esther Deblinger

o Treating Trauma & Traumatic Grief in Children & Adolescents by Judith A. Cohen, Anthony P.
Mannarino, and Esther Deblinger


o Cory Helps Kids Cope with Sexual Abuse: Playful Activities for Traumatized Children by Liana

o Dealing with Trauma: A TF-CBT Workbook for Teens by Alison Hendricks, Judith A. Cohen,
Anthony P. Mannarino, and Esther Deblinger (free)
o Tu Libro de Actividades de TF-CBT by Alison Hendricks, Judith Cohen, Anthony Mannarino, &
Esther Deblinger (free)
o Your Very Own TF-CBT Workbook by Alison Hendricks, Judith A. Cohen, Anthony P. Mannarino,
and Esther Deblinger (free)


o Finding Sunshine After the Storm: A Workbook for Children Healing from Sexual Abuse by Curtis
Holmes and Sharon McGee

o No More Hurt: A Children’s Workbook about Recovering from Abuse by Wendy Deaton &
Kendall Jackson

o When Something Terrible Happens: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief (workbook) by Marge

o When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief (workbook) by Marge


o The Me Nobody Knows: A Guide for Teen Survivors by Barbara Bean & Shari Bennett

o The PTSD Workbook for Teens by Libbi Palmer



o Healing Days: A Guide for Children Who Have Experienced Trauma by Susan Farber Straus

o A Terrible Thing Happened by Margaret Holmes



 1-2-3 Magic: 3 Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting by Thomas Phelan

 How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

 No Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing
Mind by Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

o The No Drama Discipline Workbook by Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

 Out of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn’t Work and What Will by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

 Parenting the Strong-Willed Child by Rex Forehand & Nicholas Long

 Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love by Scott

 Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman & Joan Declaire

 The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

 Try and Make Me! Simple Strategies that Turn Off the Tantrums and Create Cooperation by Ray
Levy, Bill O’Hanlon, and Tyler Norris Goode

 The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook by Davis, Eshelman, & McKay (for adults)
 The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook for Kids by Shapiro, Sprague, & McKay
 Angry Octopus: An Anger Management Story (introducing progressive muscle relaxation and deep
breathing) by Lori Lite
 Master of Mindfulness: How to Be Your Own Superhero in Times of Stress by Lori Grossman & Mr.
Musemici’s 5th Grade Class
 Meditation is an Open Sky by Whitney Stewart
 Mindful Movements: Ten Exercises for Well-being by Thich Nhat Hanh
 Peaceful Piggy Yoga by Kerry Lee MacLean

 Double-Dip Feelings: Stories to Help Children Understand Emotions by Barbara Cain
 Josh’s Smiley Faces: A Story About Anger by Gina Ditta-Donahue
 The Feelings Book: The Care & Keeping of Your Emotions by Dr. Lynda Madison
 The Way I Feel by Janan Cain
 Today I Feel Silly and Other Moods That Make My Day by Jamie Lee Curtis

 I Believe in Me by Connie Bowen
 I Think, I Am! Teaching Kids the Power of Affirmations by Louise Hay & Kristina Tracy
 The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper
 No More Stinking Thinking: A Workbook for Teaching Children Positive Thinking by Joann Altiero
 Ready for Anything by Keiko Kasza
 The Can Do Duck: A Story About Believing in Yourself by Ducktor Morty
 The Hyena Who Lost Her Laugh: A Story About Changing Your Negative Thinking by Jessica LambShapiro


o A Safe Place to Live: A Story for Children Who Have Experienced Domestic Violence by Michelle
o Mommy’s Black Eye: Children Dealing with Domestic Violence by William George Bentrim
o When Mommy Got Hurt (domestic violence) by Ilene Lee and Kathy Sylwester

o Finding the Right Spot: When Kids Can’t Live with Their Parents by Janice Levy
o Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care by Jennifer Wilgocki, Marcia Kahn Wright, &
Alissa Imre Geis

o Helping Families Heal by Runyon, Cooper, & Glick
o My Mom Has a Bad Temper by Beverly Hopkins

o Kids Helping Kids Break the Silence of Sexual Abuse by Linda Lee Folz
o Please Tell! A Child’s Book About Sexual Abuse by Jessie
o Ready to Remember: Jeremy’s Journey of Hope & Healing by Goodman, Miller, & Cohen (free)
o Rosie Remembers Mommy: Forever in Her Heart by Goodman, Miller, Cohen, & Lieberman

o The Night Dad Went to Jail: What to Expect When Someone You Love Goes to Jail by Melissa

 You’ve Got Dragons by Kathryn Cave

o Blue Cheese Breath & Stinky Feet: How to Deal with Bullies by Catherine DePino
o Do You Have a Secret? (Let’s Talk About It) by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos
o I Said No! A Kids Guide to Keep Private Parts Private by Kimberly King & Zack King
o It’s MY Body: A Book to Teach Young Children How to Resist Uncomfortable Touch by Lory
o Let’s Talk About Taking Care of You: An Educational Book About Body Safety by Lori Stauffer &
Esther Deblinger (versions for preschool and elementary age, as well as a workbook and
personal safety activity book)
o No More Secrets for Me! by Orly Wachter
o The Teen Relationship Workbook by Kerry Moles
o The Trouble with Secrets by Karen Johnsen
o Uncle Willy’s Tickles: A Child’s Right to Say No by Marcie Aboff
o You Touch, I Tell! by Chi Hosseinion
o Your Body Belongs to You by Cornelia Maude Spelman

o Amazing You!: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts by Gail Saltz
o Asking About Sex and Growing Up: A Question and Answer Book for Kids by Joanna Cole
o Bellybuttons Are Navels by Mark Schoen
o Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships by Ruth Bell
o It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex & Sexual Health by Robie Harris
o My Body, My Self For Girls by Lynda Madaras and Area Madaras
o What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras and Area Madaras
o Where Did I Come From? The facts of life without any nonsense or illustrations by Peter Mayle


Yoga Pretzel by Tara Guber

Practice bending, twisting, breathing, relaxing and more with Yoga Pretzels, a vibrant and colorful set of illustrated cards that provide a healthy dose of fun and education while teaching all the basics of yoga to help your head and heart.

Founded by Tara Guber and directed by Leah Kalish, Yoga Ed. develops health and wellness courses and materials that educate children, teachers and parents about the benefits of yoga! Our friends Tara and Leah co-wrote our Yoga Pretzels Deck, an exciting, educational addition to our Yoga Pretzels collection! Please visit the Yoga Ed. website to find out more about how to bring Yoga Ed. to your school or community!

List compiled by the Episcenter of Pennsylvania

Other PTSD resources:

June is PTSD awareness month, and I’d like share with you some of our most popular evidence-based articles on PTSD and addiction. These pieces are informative resources :

Thank you to Megan Bishop of the for these wonderful resources of not only addiction,  also of  PTSD, a big part of their advocacy.

PTSD resources for victims of violence and exploitation. Traumatic experiences take a tremendous toll on its victims; and it’s unfortunate that 60 to 80 percent of victims of a traumatic event will suffer from PTSD at some point in their lives. Struggling to handle these burdens can lead to substance misuse as a way to self-medicate and temporarily self soothe.

In the spirit of lending a helping hand to our online readers and anyone seeking help. Please find educational material on how to identify symptoms, types of PTSD, and ways to seek treatment.

Information about those who have suffered trauma and could also be struggling with addiction. Let’s  raise awareness about the concerns of PTSD, substance abuse and how to get help.

Thank you to Alana Brenner, Awareness Advocate;The Recovery Village Palm Beach® | an Advanced Recovery Systems Brand for this information.

Great Books on Grief and Loss

It was near and dear to my heart to put together these great books to read to  Young Readers  on the topic of Grief and Loss:

“The Two of Them.” By  Aliki

“The day she was born, her grandfather made her a ring of silver and a polished stone, because he loved her already.” Through the years, the little girl and her grandfather share so many happy times — playing by the sea, walking in the mountains, working in his store. And when he grows sick, she takes care of him with as much love as he always showed her.

“Mom Has Cancer. ” by  Jennifer Moore-Mallinos

The sensitively written Let’s Talk About It Books encourage preschool-age and early-grades children to explore their feelings, deal with problems that trouble them, and understand others who have problems of their own. Each title speaks to a particular concern that children might encounter in the course of growing up. All books in this series have appealing color illustrations on every page, and are available in both English and Spanish language editions. A short section at the back of each book offers related advice to parents. This book points out that a diagnosis that Mom has cancer is as frightening for her children as it is for her. The story describes such a situation, helping kids understand how Mom requires special medical care on her path toward regaining health.

I Miss You: A First Look at Death Paperback – January 1, 2001

When a close friend or family member dies, it can be difficult for children to express their feelings. This book helps boys and girls understand that death is a natural complement to life, and that grief and a sense of loss are normal feelings for them to have following a loved one’s death. Titles in this sensitively presented series explore the dynamics of various relationships experienced by children of preschool through early school age. Kids are encouraged to understand personal feelings and social problems as a first step in dealing with them. Written by psychotherapist and counselor Pat Thomas, these books promote positive interaction among children, parents, and teachers. The story lines are simple and direct–easily accessible to younger children. There are full-color illustrations on every page.

o Goodbye Mousie by Robie Harris

o I Miss You: A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas

o What On Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies? by Trevor Romain

o When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death by Laurie Krasny Brown

“The Heart and the Bottle.” By Oliver Jeffers

Once there was a girl whose life was filled with wonder at the world around her. Then one day something happened that made the girl take her heart and put it in a safe place. However, after that it seemed that the world was emptier than before. But would she know how to get her heart back?

“You Hold Me and I’ll Hold You.” By Jo Carson

When a small girl hears her father’s aunt has died and they must drive to Tennessee for the funeral, she worries about how different it will be from her backyard service for their hamster. It’s so different in a church when relatives cry and a preacher is saying all the stuff he’s thought of. Death is enormous then, and that’s when comfort (You hold me, says Daddy, and I’ll hold you) is most precious. Full-color illustrationsu Hold Me and I Hold You.”  By Jo Carson

“Mama” By Eleanor Schick

A child remembers special moments with Mama and starts to feel better after grieving over her death, in a soothing picture book with a message of hope for young children learning to cope after a loss.

“Goodbye Mousie” By Robie H. Harris

One morning a boy finds that his pet, Mousie, won’t wake up. The truth is Mousie has died. At first the boy doesn’t believe it. He gets very mad at Mousie for dying, and then he feels very sad. But talking about Mousie, burying Mousie in a special box, and saying good-bye helps this boy begin to feel better about the loss of his beloved pet.

“What’s Heaven?” By Maria Shriver

Shriver provides a starting point–for people of all faiths–to discuss the difficult subject of death with their children in this story of a little girl whose grandmother has just died. Color illustrations. Major media coverage.

“When Someone Dies.” By Sharon Greenlee

In this simple book, counselor Sharon Greenlee explains the hurt, fear, and confusion felt by children and adults alike after a death has occurred. Accompanied by delicate watercolors, When Someone Dies offers suggestions for easing the pain, surviving the changes, and remembering the good times. 15 watercolor illustrations.

“The Cat Next Door.” By Betty Ren Wright

When her beloved grandmother dies, a little girl recalls the times she and her grandmother used to ride on a crocodile raft, make cookies and lemonade, have picnics, take boat rides, and wait for the cat next door.

“Ida, Always.” By Caron Levis and Charles Santoso

A beautiful, honest portrait of loss and deep friendship told through the story of two iconic polar bears.

“When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death.” By Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

Books for Teenagers and Adults.

“Summerlost. ” By Ally Condie

A tender and compelling contemporary novel for young readers about facing loss and finding friendship, from Ally Condie, international bestselling author of the Matched series.

“The Thing about Jellyfish.” By Ali Benjamin

Twelve-year-old Suzy Swanson wades through her intense grief over the loss of her best friend by investigating the rare jellyfish she is convinced was responsible for her friend’s death.

“Coping When a Parent Dies ” by Janet Grosshandler-Smith

Offers teenagers comforting advice on how to cope with the grief – confusion – fears – and trauma of a parent’s death.

“The Only Game.” by Mike Lupica

Can a young baseball star maintain his love of the game after the loss of his brother? Find out in this start to the Home Team series about a small town with high hopes, from New York Times bestselling author and sportswriting legend Mike Lupica. Jack Callahan is the star of his baseball team and sixth grade is supposed to be his year. Undefeated season. Records shattered. Little League World Series. The works. That is, until he up and quits. Jack s best friend Gus can t understand how Jack could leave a game that means more to them than anything else. But Jack is done. It s a year of change. Jack s brother has passed away, and though his family and friends and the whole town of Walton thinks baseball is just the thing he needs to move on, Jack feels it s anything but. In comes Cassie Bennett, star softball player, and the only person who seems to think Jack shouldn’t play if he doesn’t want to. As Jack and Cassie s friendship deepens, their circle expands to include Teddy, a guy who s been picked on because of his weight. Time spent with these new friends unlocks something within Jack, and with their help and the support of his family and his old friends, Jack discovers sometimes it s more than just the love of the game that keeps us moving and he might just be able to find his way back to The Only Game.”

In honor of my dear friend, mentor and confidant:  David Bergstein. He was a Social Work Supervisor, a Poet, a Writer, an Educator.  It was important for me to display his beautiful writings here:

“Margaret in the Forrest.” By David Bergstein : This series was inspired during a walk in the woods while trying to see the surroundings as a child might. Conclusion: Animals require specialized homes to live among us. Margaret Forrest is dedicated to learn all she can about how animals require their habitats to remain as they are. Margaret’s interests include, but are not limited to, teaching that a healthy Earth is a requirement for all living things (meaning you!) to be happy and healthy. [endsection]


Grief and Loss Weblink Resources

Grief and Loss Resources:

Webhealing.comTop Rated
Created by Tom Golden, LCSW, this website is devoted to helping people understand and deal with profound grief. provides free resources for those experiencing loss, including articles and forums, as well as paid services and tools provided by Mr. Golden through his workshops and private practice.

Grief and SympathyNew
Grief and Sympathy is written by nurse, health visitor and hospice matron Elizabeth Postle who had over 45 years experience helping the bereaved. The site has grown to be one of the foremost grief support websites on the net with over half a million users in 2018. This resource encompasses all types of loss including divorce, chronic illness, pet loss, disability, and grief due to a relative with Alzheimer’s disease as well as bereavement. It also includes poems, quotes, and advice for planning funerals and expressing sympathy.

Bereavement Support Network
This website is designed to answer many questions that come about after the death of a loved one. Includes very practical information and support that addresses topics such as care for the deceased, dealing with coroners and death registration, financial concerns, and caring for the bereaved.

Center for Complicated Grief

      • The Center for Complicated Grief seeks to improve the lives of people with complicated grief through a comprehensive program of outreach, education, training, and research. The Centers activities focus on four key areas:
  • Raising awareness of CG in the general population so that individuals suffering with prolonged, complicated grief, as well as their family and friends, will recognize the condition and learn where to find help.
  • Working to disseminate CG-related assessment and therapeutic tools to practicing clinicians such as grief counselors and health professionals.
  • Developing curricula for graduate, post-masters and post-doctoral education of mental health professionals.
  • Fostering innovative research to continuously improve complicated grief treatment and treatment dissemination.                                                                                                                             The Center is committed to training mental health clinicians to administer and teach complicated grief treatment.

DetailsChance’s SpotTop Rated
Chance’s Spot is a great pet loss and support site, offering everything from pet tributes that anyone can add, a weekly newsletter, grief resources for grieving pet owners, and a thriving support group.

DetailsCoping with the Loss of a Spouse
Having a spouse die is a horrible and traumatic event in a person’s life. While a person probably never can completely cope with the loss of a spouse, Dr. Martin shows some simple and easy to understand steps that can help.|

DetailsDeath with DignityTop Rated
This site provides resources to help cope with the loss of a loved one or prepare for the future. I really liked this site because it has so much useful information for someone who is losing a loved one.

DetailsGrief Healing
Developed by a certified bereavement counselor, this site offers information, comfort and support to those who are anticipating or mourning the loss of a loved one, whether human or animal. Includes articles on various aspects of loss as well as links to other resources.

DetailsGriefNet.orgTop Rated
Excellent site with loads of information and 37 email support groups, room for personal memorial pages, a site for kids support, and a guestbook for posting messages. I have been a volunteer for more than 4 years, after finding them when in great need, and know it’s an excellent resource and the support groups are very helpful. The director is Cendra Lynn and her email is|

DetailsHospice Foundation of America
The Hospice Foundation of America provides extensive information about the grieving process, including dozens of articles and useful information for anyone going through the grieving process. Articles include:

  • Shattering Eight Myths About Grief
  • A Year is a Relative Thing
  • Facing Sudden Loss
  • Guilt and Regret in Prolonged Illness
  • Helping a Child Deal with Death
  • Eight Myths About Children and Loss
  • Reflections on Spiritual Problems in Sudden Loss
  • After Caregiving Ends
  • Holiday Memories
  • Grief and the Holidays
  • Am I Losing My Mind?

DetailsJourney Through Grief
Journey Through Grief provides various ways of learning to cope and deal with grief, trauma, loss and sorrow; from grief poems to the making of memory books, memorial gardens and more.

DetailsKidsGrief is a series of three learning modules that equip parents, guardians and other caregivers with evidence-based grief support strategies for children aged 2-18.

They are also an educational and family resource for healthcare providers and educators. Some topics include: teachable moments, such as pet death; preparing kids to be at the bedside of someone who is dying; informing kids about a death; explaining Medical Assistance in Dying, and suicide, and more. was developed by the Canadian Virtual Hospice and a team of grief experts and family advisors.

Moving Beyond the Loss of an Ability
How can a person handle a loss of an ability? It may be something as eyesight, hearing, or it can be such things as walking, talking and others. What happens when a person loses abilities and how can they best help themselves?

MyGrief is an online support for people working through grief and loss or supporting someone who is grieving. Produced by Canadian Virtual Hospice in collaboration with a team of families, grief experts and partners, it consists of nine sections covering a variety of topics including: recognizing how grief affects you before and after death; facing emotions such as sadness, loneliness, anger, fear and guilt; managing situations that trigger grief; managing family dynamics; dealing with unhelpful comments and unwanted advice and more. is a helpful resource to you whether you are simply browsing through obituaries, building a family tree or have the unfortunate task of writing an obituary for a deceased loved one.

Pet Loss HelpTop Rated
PetLossHelp.Org is a website devoted to helping you manage the grieving process that follows the loss of an animal companion. Losing a precious pet can be among the most devastating experiences in a person’s life. Often we are overwhelmed with feelings that are so strong, we feel as if we cannot tolerate the intensity of the grief. – Creating Memorial Albums After Loss
Scrapbooking after losing a loved one can be an emotional and challenging experience. It can also be therapeutic, helping us to grieve and heal after the loss, while keeping the memory of our loved one alive for us and helping us focus on happy memories.

This guide from explores how to approach the difficult subject of creating albums in memory of loved ones who have passed for funeral services, memorial services, record keeping and life sharing and more.

Sympathy Message Ideas
A resource offering help and examples when struggling with finding the right words for a sympathy, bereavement or condolence message.

Sympathy Messages and Quotes
This article from Trees for a Change offers an extensive list of sympathy message ideas and condolence quotes to help you express yourself after a loss of a friend or loved one.

Talking to Your Child About the Loss of a Loved OneTop Rated
A series of articles written for family and parents trying to understand how to best talk to their children about the loss or death of someone close to them. The articles explain how children should be approached about death, whether they should attend the funeral, and how you should approach the topic when talking to them based upon their age and individual needs.

Tips for Better Managing Your Stress
There has to be a better way. Stewing around in life, upset because things did not turn out the way they were supposed to is not the best way to deal with your life. You deserve better. Do you want to learn how to manage your stress better? You do? Click on this article, and find out how.

Trauma Grief & Recovery
An article entitled, “Terrorism: September 11, 2001 Trauma Grief and Recovery,” written by Kathleen Nader, D.S.W.

What to Write in a Sympathy Card
If you aren’t sure what to say in a sympathy card then this guide is perfect for you. It covers what to write, the etiquette, what not to say, as well as example messages, quotes, poems and more.

WidowNetTop Rated
Thank you for visiting WidowNet, an information and self-help resource for, and by, widows and widowers. Topics covered include grief, bereavement, recovery, and other information helpful to people, of all ages, religious backgrounds and sexual orientations, who have suffered the death of a spouse or life partner.

Resources for Telemedicine

Telemedicine Resources:

I am honor to partner with the telemedicine industry to help people navigate this new development in therapy. As you know, it can be an affordable, private and convenient way to speak with a counselor, yet instruction on “how to use” online therapy is suggested.

Here are how the different companies compare to each other:

It’s most likely no surprise to you, but BetterHelp finished as our first choice for consumers. And, in a round-about way, our research commends our practice decision to work with them!

Would love to share this research with as many as possible!

Brought to you by Shannon with Consumers Advocate — we do our best to take complicated subjects and make them understandable.


Resources for Mental Health Resources

The following links are listed to provide you with additional online mental health care information. Please also check the additional links provided for physical health for a more comprehensive understanding of your over-all well-being. The following is not meant to be a comprehensive list, nor is it an endorsement of the content of the sites.

Associations & Institutes

Suicide Awareness and Hotlines


Anxiety Disorders

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Addiction and Recovery

Eating Disorders

Personality Disorders

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

Child Abuse and Domestic Violence

Developmental Disorders



  • provides up-to-date information about prescription and over-the-counter medications, including details about associated side effects.
  • is a comprehensive database with information and news alerts about potentially dangerous drugs currently on the market or previously available worldwide.



Finances Resources

FinancialAssistanceForSingleMothers. This website helps financially struggling single mothers with finding grants and government assistance programs. This service is free of cost.

Financial Aid and Scholarships- Outreach New York CASAC Training

Financial Aid and Scholarships – Outreach New York (



Volunteer Opportunities in NY Resources

Volunteer Opportunities in NY

The Academy for Public Health Services

The Christian Crusades Church of NYC

NYC Services

Home – NYC Service

Volunteer Match

VolunteerMatch – Where Volunteering Begins

New York Chinese School (Principal Jennifer Wang)

紐約華僑學校 | New York Chinese School (